Peace for Paris


I imagine this might be what it looks like when we die, and how it might feel; like being pelted with prisms of light that carry the particles of everything we've ever loved. Maybe it's just science, maybe it's God, maybe it's whatever we choose to believe. Whatever makes it easier to stand back up, to open a slammed-shut heart.

Don't pray for peace. Be peace. It's not a wish or a request or someone's else job. It's in our hands.



it's always 1973 if you ask me


I did a simple macrame project today.  It's so relaxing and meditative and I'm really happy with the finished product.  I just did six lines of traditional square knots, then a twisted knot, and then I dip-dyed the ends using a standard dye that you can buy at the supermarket.  I attached it to a stick I found on a hike last summer.

images © jennifer summer | 2015

images © jennifer summer | 2015


moroccan stairs


Here is a brief how-to with photos for the painting and stenciling makeover I did on my staircase.


Hand-held power sander
Yellow paint
Polyurethane for hardwood floors (with light amber tint)
Stencils (I used these). 
White paint for stencils
Sponge brush (for stencils and for applying polyurethane)

My stairs had been carpeted by the last owner of the house, so they were in really rough shape when the carpet was removed.  I sanded the tops and the backs several times.  It took about ten or so rounds with the sander before I got them how I wanted them.  After that, I just buffed them with a dry cloth and vacuumed the dust.

I started by painting the backs of the stairs with the yellow paint.  This took about three coats, with several hours of drying time between them.

I decided to do the same design in a row on each step, alternating designs by step.  I simply cut the stencil out, applied it gently to the step with tape and used the white paint with a sponge brush to stipple the paint over the stencil.  When I was finished, I let it dry for about 6 hours.

I then applied a thin layer of polyurethane over the top of the stair backs to kind of seal in the stencil and to give it a nice shine.  I let that dry for about four hours and then applied a second layer.

The stairs took much longer to dry as I didn't want to use them until they were fully sealed.  I applied a thin coat of poly to each step and left them alone for about 9 hours.  You will need a fan (or more!) and to have any windows open while you do this.  I'd also suggest leaving the house for a while if you can; the fumes are very strong and gave me a bit of a headache and dizziness.

For a finishing touch, I applied one large round stencil (I don't remember the name of this one, but it's a Martha Stewart brand and I got it at Michael's) with two smaller ones on either side on the landing of the stairs, and the same design on the staircase ledge (it's a perfect spot to put knick knacks, books, etc but I can't because my cats - or kid - always knock them over, so I thought this was a good way to permanently dress up this area). 

I am so pleased with the result!  They are not perfect, but I didn't really want them to be.  I wanted them to have an old world, imperfect charm about them, and they do.

all photos © jennifer summer | 2015

all photos © jennifer summer | 2015


on your 11th birthday

© jennifer summer | 2015

© jennifer summer | 2015

There have been times in my life that I’ve been so low I could taste the ground.  My mouth was filled with the dirt of devastation, the mire of not good enough, the bitter dew of loneliness. I was never sure I could stand up long enough, and strong enough, to be someone’s parent.  However, I come from a rich ancestry of warrior women; both grandmothers, aunts, and cousins, and through their example of perseverance, I have found my center, my holy, over and over again.

Each time when I thought I couldn’t again raise my head from rock bottom, one of them would be there.  They show up, time after time, never tired, never angry.  The village of their love and support untangles me from the strangling weariness and sets me straight.  Without them, I would lack the courage to not only love myself, but to pass on this all-encompassing love that I have for my son.  

And, at the end of time, this is all that will matter.  The sum total of our days will be measured by the love that has picked up our tired frames in its arms and carried us when we couldn’t do it ourselves.

Life is about being able to look upward from our lowest point and see an outstretched hand.

Happy 11th birthday, baby bear.


for emma


In 2012 I wrote about the miscarriage I had when I was twenty, but I re-wrote it tonight after engaging in a lengthy abortion debate earlier.  During the course of debating about reproductive rights, I will inevitably bring it up and add that, had nature not taken its course, I would have terminated the pregnancy.  I felt no guilt, only relief.  The end of an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy is not always tragic and life-altering; it is, in fact, the least traumatic thing I experienced while growing up.  We need to be the authors of our own destiny whenever possible, and there is no room for shame in that.  

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I had nothing to give her.

My entire life still ached, a deep, searing pain that caused my heart to beat with a limp.  I still awoke in the dead of night sheathed in sweat, choking on panic.  I ate toddler-sized portions of food while sitting naked in front of a mirror, berating myself and frantically counting calories, rubbing my thumbs along my jutting hipbones as though I were making a desperate wish.  I would often spend days not leaving my bed, chain-smoking and scrawling poem after poem into sketchbooks, impossibly long hair tangled and wild, un-brushed, a restless spirit hungry, so hungry, wanting to swallow the world whole.

I was no one’s mother.

She was like being underwater, the roar of letting her go rushing through my ears, an upturned seashell. She was a Rorschach pattern of red imprinting itself on white panties, a pain seizing my insides and wringing them out like a towel. All I could offer up was a deluge of tears streaming as quickly as my blood, her blood.  

When the waves subsided, I was left empty.  The tide receded with a sigh and left behind a peaceful relief, an invisible and empathetic hand stroking my sweaty forehead.  I had no way to guide her, still so lost myself; two babes in the woods, scavenging for our next meal.  I wasn’t in love. I couldn’t be whole for her when so many pieces of myself were still broken and jagged.  

The prayer of thanks was effortless.  I was so grateful to have been spared this choice, knowing full well what my path would have been.  Behind my eyes I watched her go and fade into the line of our horizon, a memory tucked in sweetly to sleep.  





And then she can breathe again, the fresh air of him plumping out her lungs, pillowing into her chest.  This is the only place where letting go is permissible to her, where she crashes into full surrender.  He pours his pulse down her throat; his tongue carves a tome between her thighs, and it’s the story of how this coming together is an orchid, blooming in aching night, forever free from daylight’s scrutiny.